Parenting through BPD isn’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

Chaos to Calm is your space for real talk, practical tools, and community support, designed for mums of young adults with emotional dysregulation, BPD or EUPD.

Parenting through BPD isn’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone.

Chaos to Calm is your space for real talk, practical tools, and community support, designed for mums of young adults with emotional dysregulation, BPD or EUPD.

Hi,

I’m Sami, mum, coach, and your calm in the chaos.

I’ve walked through the storm. As a mum supporting a young adult with emotional dysregulation, I know what it feels like to be scared, stuck, and utterly exhausted. But I also know what it’s like to find clarity, hope, and support when everything feels too much.

Chaos to Calm was born from my lived experience and from the fierce love I have for my daughter. It's here to help you navigate the emotional whirlwind of supporting your child, and to care for yourself along the way. I’ve walked through the storm...

If you're navigating the chaos of parenting a young adult with Borderline Personality Disorder (Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder) or any emotional dysregulation, you're in the right place.

Whether you're desperate for answers, craving community, or simply need someone who gets it, you don’t have to do this alone anymore.

This space was built for you.


Calm Toolkit

Resources

Your go-to space for practical, gentle support. The Calm Toolkit is where you’ll find helpful downloads, grounding exercises, and self-guided tools – all designed to help you (and your family) navigate emotional overwhelm.
It’s not just about finding calm in the moment, but building long-term emotional resilience too. You’ll find bite-sized knowledge on things like DBT skills, self-soothing techniques, and mindset shifts – with more being added regularly. Think of it as your growing library of calm, clarity, and confidence.

Blog

Coming Out of Crisis: The Week After the Storm

Coming Out of Crisis: The Week After the Storm

The week after a psychiatric discharge isn’t calm; it’s fragile. A mother shares the truth about post-crisis exhaustion, fragile hope, and learning to breathe again. ...more

Navigating the System (NHS, Crisis Services & Private Help) ,Emotional Dysregulation &Being a Mum of Daughter with BPD

November 03, 20252 min read

Learning in the Storm: Why Relapse After Discharge Is So Common

Learning in the Storm: Why Relapse After Discharge Is So Common

A parent’s honest guide to understanding relapse after psychiatric discharge, why it happens, what to look for, and how to stay grounded through it. ...more

Navigating the System (NHS, Crisis Services & Private Help) ,Emotional Tools and Techniques Emotional Dysregulation Knowledge is Power &Resources and Learning

October 31, 20252 min read

Learning in the Storm: Surviving the First Week After Discharge

Learning in the Storm: Surviving the First Week After Discharge

A practical parent guide to coping after psychiatric discharge: safety planning, home-based ‘support’, night fears, and surviving the first week. ...more

Emotional Tools and Techniques ,Knowledge is Power Resources and Learning &Being a Mum of Daughter with BPD

October 24, 20252 min read

The Calm Hub, Support for Every Storm

🔵 Chaos to Calm App

Your calm in the chaos, right in your pocket.
A growing toolkit of distraction ideas, grounding techniques and support strategies created for those moments when it all feels too much.

🔵 The Anchor Box (Subscription)

The Anchor Box is your go-to when emotions run high — for both you and your loved one.
It’s packed with calming tools, sensory items, and grounding prompts to help you pause, reset, and hold steady together.
Because anchoring isn’t just about stopping , it’s about staying connected to what matters most.

🔵 Chaos to Calm Blog

Raw, relatable stories from a mum living through the chaos — and the calm.
Explore practical tools, emotional reflections, and small steps that make a big difference.
Because sometimes, hearing “me too” is the most powerful thing.


FAQs: Your Calm, Your Way

Are you a psychologist or a therapist?

No, I’m a mum who’s walked this path. What I offer is practical support, lived experience, and gentle guidance. This isn’t therapy, it’s everyday tools, emotional reassurance, and a community that gets it.

Do I have to join a group or talk to anyone?

Not at all. Many of my resources are self-guided. You can explore at your own pace, privately. When you’re ready for connection, the Facebook community is there, but only when you want to dip in.

Is this just for mums of kids with BPD?

Not only. While my heart lies with supporting parents of young adults navigating emotional dysregulation or BPD, the tools I offer grounding, emotional regulation, gentle resets are helpful for anyone feeling overwhelmed.

What is the Calm Hub?

The Calm Hub is your go-to online space filled with free tools, articles, calming techniques, and inspiration. Think of it like a virtual hug when life gets a bit too much.

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