My Story Supporting My daughter with BPD caused by a childhood trauma

Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?

Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?by: Sami WardPublished on: 05/10/2026

The 9pm "it's all your fault" text, and the two ways to answer it. Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse? For mums of a young adult with BPD, EUPD or emotional dysregulation.

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Are you the lifeboat or the lighthouse?

Nobody Told You About Section 3 or Section 117. That's Not an Accident.

Nobody Told You About Section 3 or Section 117. That's Not an Accident.by: Sami WardPublished on: 28/09/2026

Been told your young adult is being discharged with no support plan? Here's what Section 117 aftercare actually means, who it covers, and why you shouldn't have to fight for it alone.

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Nobody Told You About Section 3 or Section 117. That's Not an Accident.

Calm isn't the same as fine (and both are allowed)

Calm isn't the same as fine (and both are allowed)by: Sami WardPublished on: 21/09/2026

A mum's honest story of staying calm on the hard nights, why calm isn't the same as being fine, and three tiny ways back to steady ground when it all feels like too much.

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Calm isn't the same as fine (and both are allowed)

Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.

Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.by: Sami WardPublished on: 07/09/2026

Why setting a boundary with your young adult can feel like betrayal, why it isn't, and three gentle boundaries you can try this week. Honest support for exhausted mums.

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Boundaries aren't walls. They're where you end and he begins.