Only £25 a month
⚓THE HARBOUR
You don't have to hold this on your own anymore.
The Harbour is a calm, steady membership for mums supporting a young adult
through emotional dysregulation storms.
Short videos, grounding audio and mums who truly get it, for less than £1 a day.
When everything feels heavy, confusing and relentless, The Harbour gives you somewhere to land.
£25 a month. Cancel anytime.
This is for you if:
you feel exhausted by the constant ups and downs
you worry you’re saying the wrong thing
you feel stuck between helping and walking on eggshells
you’ve read advice that just doesn’t fit real life
you feel lonely in what you’re carrying
you wish someone actually understood this
you feel like you should know what to do, but you don't
If you nodded at even one of these, you're in the right place.
Kind words from mums like you
"I followed your guidance and then stayed quiet. Waited. Then she talked. We sat together for....three hours. Talked, cried, laughed, shared, hugged. And, therapy is on the table again, on her terms. That's a first in almost 4 years. Thank You."
A mum in the community
"If you're a parent or carer supporting a young person with BPD or other emotional dysregulation, I highly recommend Sami. She provides a space for parents who are trying to hold it all together."
Susan, on Facebook
"This is wonderful counsel. I've been attempting to give space for my thought reasoning and these steps provide the structure needed to effectively do so. Thank you. ⚓"
A member of the free group
Hi, I’m Sami
I created The Harbour because I know how heavy this can feel,
supporting a young adult through emotional storms
while trying to hold yourself together at the same time.
This space is here to help you feel a little more steady in it.
What The Harbour is…
The Harbour is a monthly support membership for mums navigating the reality of emotional dysregulation.
It gives you a calmer, steadier place to come when things feel too much.
A place to:
- Understand what’s really going on
- Learn simple, practical ways to respond
- Feel supported by people who truly get it
- Access help when hard moments hit
You’re not imagining how hard this feels
There comes a point where you're exhausted from holding everything together.
You're supporting your young adult.
Managing your own emotions.
Trying to make sense of something that often doesn't make sense.
You think carefully about every word.
You second guess yourself.
And still, things can escalate.
If you're honest, it can feel incredibly lonely.
Most people around you simply don't understand.
You haven't got this wrong. You've been carrying something heavy, mostly on your own.
Inside The Harbour, you’ll find:
Simple support, steady guidance, and tools you can actually use.
⚓ Your Anchor
Short, supportive guidance, to help you understand what’s happening and what may help.
⚓ Calm Moment
A gentle pause, something simple to help you breathe, reset, and feel a little more grounded.
⚓ The Calm Hub
A simple library of grounding tools and practical resources you can come back to whenever things feel overwhelming.
⚓ Private Facebook Community
A calm, supportive space with mums who truly understand what this feels like.
⚓ The Harbour Messages
A gentle, one-way WhatsApp space from me, sharing reminders, reassurance, and steady support when you need it.
No pressure to reply. Just something to come back to when things feel a bit much.
⚓ Fortnightly Coffee Chats: Live Q&A
A space to bring real-life questions and get support around what you’re dealing with.
⚓ Guest Expert Support
Monthly expert guidance to help you feel more informed and supported.
Why The Harbour feels different
Because this isn’t built from theory alone.
It comes from real-life experience, from being in the middle of it,
trying to support someone you love while holding yourself together at the same time.
You won’t be told to “just stay calm” or “set better boundaries” and hope for the best.
Because when you’re in it…
you need something that actually makes sense
and generic advice just does not cut it.
What it is built on:
Honest understanding
Practical support
Space to breathe
And guidance that fits real life
This space has been shaped by lived experience, learning,
and a deep understanding of how hard this can be.
Questions you might have
Is this therapy?
No. The Harbour is guided, practical support from someone who has lived this, plus a community of mums who get it. It sits alongside professional help, not instead of it.
What if my young adult won’t engage?
That is very common, and it is exactly why this is for you. You don’t need them to take part for you to feel steadier.
Do I have to use Facebook or WhatsApp?
No. The Calm Hub and the guidance work on their own. The community and messages are there when you want them.
How much time does it take?
Most of it is short, a few minutes at a time, for when life is busy or a moment is hard.
Can I cancel?
Yes, anytime.
Hi, I’m Sami
I created The Harbour because I know how heavy this can feel,
supporting a young adult through emotional storms
while trying to hold yourself together at the same time.
This space is here to help you feel a little more steady in it.
What starts to change
This isn’t about getting everything right.
But over time, things can begin to feel different.
you feel a little more grounded in difficult moments
you understand what’s happening instead of feeling lost in it
you react less from panic and more from steadiness
you feel more confident in how you respond
you feel less alone in what you’re carrying
you start to find small moments of calm again
Not perfect. Not fixed. But steadier.
The Membership
The Harbour ⚓
Cancel anytime.
What you get
- Your Anchor and Calm Moment
- The Calm Hub
- Private Facebook community
- The Harbour Messages
- Fortnightly coffee chats: live Q&A
- Guest expert support
How it works
- Join in under a minute
- Get your welcome email with your first steps
- Open The Harbour Membership and The Calm Hub
- Join the Facebook and WhatsApp groups using the links
You don’t need to have it all figured out before you come in.
You don’t need to be coping well.
You don’t need to be getting it “right”.
You just need somewhere to land.
The Harbour is here to help you feel a little steadier in the storm.
Email: [email protected]
Phone: 07921 829291
Address: PO Box 7169, Unit 152909, Poole, BH15 9EL
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The information on this page is provided for general guidance only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Chaos to Calm does not provide crisis intervention services. If you or someone you are supporting is in immediate danger, call 999 or attend your nearest A&E department. If you are unsure about a situation, contact NHS 111 or a qualified healthcare professional.
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